Sunday, 21 August 2022

वृद्ध होना...

वृद्ध होना...

कितना कठिन होता होगा वृद्ध होना...
आत्मनिर्भर जवानी के बाद, अवलंबित होना...
स्वावलम्बी रहकर ज़िन्दगी भर,
बुढ़ापे में अधीनस्थ होना...
कितना कठिन होता होगा वृद्ध होना...
संघर्षों से लढ़कर,
असंख्य कष्ट सहकर,
पोषण किया था जिन बच्चों का,
बाहें पसारे इंतेज़ार करना, उन्ही के अवधान का..
कितना कठिन होता होगा वृद्ध होना...
हाथ थामकर चलना सिखाया जिन बच्चों को,
हिचकिचाना, के बच्चे थामे आज उनको...
तुत्ले मीठे बोलों को प्रशंसित कर,
बोलना सिखाया था जिन बच्चों को,
तरस जाना, सुनने उनसे,प्यार भरे चार शब्दों को...
कितना कठिन होता होगा वृद्ध होना...
जन्म मरण का यह चक्र जल्द पूर्ण हो,
ये सोचने को मजबूर हो...
कितना कठिन होता होगा वृद्ध होना...
गुज़रना इस दौर से, तय हैँ हम सभी का,
 समझ ले हर शख्श, इस सच्चाई को...
करुणा की ज्योत मन में लिए,
थाम लो उनके हाथों को, ताकि
संकुचित होना ना पड़े फिर किसी भी वृद्ध को...

मन विमल 

पूर्णत्व...

पूर्णत्व ...

अपनों के साथ होने का...
बैठकर बातें करने का...
बेझिज़क कुछ भी कहने का...
खिलखिलाकर हसने का...
कच्चे पक्के व्यंजन खाने का...
पुरानी तस्वीरें देखने का...
हसीन यादों को फिर जीने का...
दिल का बोझ हल्का करने का...
हाथों में हाथ लिए चलने का...
कांधे पर सर रखने का...
चैन से फिर सोने का...
मुस्कुराकर जीवन जीने का...
सच और साहस मन में रखने का...
विश्वास कभी ना खोने का...
संकल्पित रहने का...
दृढ़ता से साथ निभाने का...
यही तो हैँ पूर्णत्व 🌹

मन विमल

Friday, 12 August 2022

खालीपन....

खालीपन....

खालीपन मन का
अकथनीय
हलक में 
कुछ अटका सा
जुबान पर
कुछ रुका सा
दिल में
कुछ चुभता सा
दिमाग में
कुछ छाया सा
आँखों में
कुछ छुपा सा
सपनों को
कुछ रौँधता सा
बेड़ियों में
कुछ जकड़ा सा 
असमंजस में
कुछ घिरा सा
अस्तित्व पर
हावी सा
कोशिश फिर भी
सँभलने का
पहेलियों से
झूज़ने का
सहारा लेकर
तिंको का
मंज़िलों को
फिर पाने का
आँसूओं को
पीकर के 
खालीपन से
उठने का
मुस्कुराते हुए मन से 
जीवन सार्थक करने का... 

मन विमल 

Saturday, 16 July 2022

Why you must see the Marathi film 'Y' ....

Why you must see the Marathi film 'Y' ....

It's over two weeks since I went to see a Marathi movie 'Y' with my colleagues. Honestly, like many others I wouldn't even have known about this wonderful movie had my friend not recommended it.
Wedded to reality, the film is a stark representation of  female foeticide, a dreaded as well as a much talked about subject.
In a world which appears equal, preference for the male child are usually covert. Pre-Conception and Pre-Natal Diagnostic Techniques PCPNDT or sex determination tests are prohibited and a criminal offence as per law. However there are veiled instances of this gruesome act. 
Medical termination of pregnancy ( MTP )is permitted only on medical grounds if approved by a doctor.
At the centre stage of 'Y' is a hospital run by a machiavellian gynaecologist who professes to be a commited medical practitioner. Under the garb of managing a renowned hospital MTPs are done for couples who do not want a female child. PCPNDT being banned indications of a girl foetus are covert.
Things are hunky dory for Dr. Purushottam Gaikwad ( played with panache by actor, Nandu Madhav ) till Dr Aarti Deshmukh ( peformed effortlessly Mukta Barve), a government medical officer is appointed to investigate and take action against hospitals and doctors involved in illegal practices. Smelling a rat, Aarti makes several attempts to unravel the truth and meets with staunch opposition from all quarters.
Despite all odds and with the support of her team, she continues with her mission exposing many malpractices in the medical and pharmacetical fields ultimately winning the battle.
There are a number of reasons why one must watch 'Y'. First and foremost it is a well-made film on a topic which has been handled sensitively and sensibly. Of course the matter-of-fact details hit you so much that your stomach may churn at the cold-blooded manner in which the medical processes are conducted. Yet the movie drives home several points including the attitude of the family members, both male and female in context to their perpetual desire for sons. A conversation with  the doctor substantiates this when he says that no doctor goes to any house asking whether he should reveal the gender of the unborn child, nor does he want to kill it if it is a  female. The family, society and the parents of the unborn child are primarily responsible for it as well as the prevalence of female foeticide.
One must also watch 'Y' as it strongly puts forth the point that the 'Y' chromosome which determines the sex of a child is from the male and not the female who has only 'X' chromosomes. Yet it is a woman who has to bear the brunt of conceiving a girl child and is always at the receiving end. The title of the film has been subtly and suitably named keeping that in mind.
All actors are flawless in their performance but Mukta stands apart. She struggles to reveal the truth and fight her own fear of dogs. The torch in her hand at climax as she overcomes her cynophobia drives home many facts. Perhaps that is the most important reason why one must watch 'Y' .

P.S. My desire to write this blog came up as among the hundred committees headed by me as Collector there is a committe for effective implementation of PCPNDT 2003. Surprisingly none of the medical fraternity in that meeting had heard about this film. I hope many people see this film, so this blog. Coincidentally Hindi  potboiler, 'Jayeshbhai Jordar' made in a typically Bollywood style also centres around this subject....

Sunday, 6 February 2022

Four years and one forty-nine days and being committed....

Four years and one forty-nine days and being committed....

It's four years since Amma passed away and one forty-nine days since I wrote my last blog. That too was a rehash of an assignment I had submitted for my PhD course work. 
I remember my days of anguish after Amma's sudden demise. Though she was an octogenarian and had spells of illness she was quite well before she passed away suddenly. In fact she had chosen to go to Hyderabad to my sister's place for a change of place. The sudden turn of events after she got fever leading to multiple organ failure thereafter left us all in the cold. Just a week after that she was no more. 
It took me about a fortnight to come to terms with the fact that indeed she was no more. 
Adjusting to a life without her took much more time. I could neither speak nor be coherent in my thoughts and of course many of my nights were devoid of sleep. 
In contrast, Amma had always been a non-nonsense person who believed in facing life's challenges come what may. Emotionally she was not only strong but always in control. No wonder she managed all of us so perfectly.  
In my heart I knew that she would have never appreciated me being lost and forlorn. I started thinking of ways and means to overcome my grief and sleeplessness. It was then that I started to blog and blogging was one of the methods I used to channelise my thoughts and overcome my grief. 
My blogs became my companions leading me from negativity to positivity through my newly found creativity.  
A couple of minutes at home or even in an aircraft were sufficient for me to pen down my thoughts. Soon writing about each little experience became a practice and more like a habit. 
I would derive great happiness and satisfaction through my blogs so much so that it got transformed into a commitment. No week went by without a blog , at times I even wrote two. 
And then suddenly started losing rhythm about a year ago and my blogs became few and irregular. Initially I made excuses to myself for not writing. Sometimes it was procrastination, sometimes sheer laziness, sometimes no desire or listlessness. Soon I gave up my habit of writing and blogging regularly.
 I did write once in a blue moon  but it gave me no pleasure. And then I not only stopped blogging but also started making excuses for my inability to write. 
Before long I was trapped in feelings of self-pity and a victim of my own mentality. I actually gave up on what I had put in so much effort for so easily. 
Many of us are like that and we lose our passion easily. A verse in the Bhagawat Gita says that our mind is undoubtedly restless and difficult to curb however repeated practice will help us to control our thoughts and emotions. 
This was Lord Krishna's biggest lesson to Arjun. He also said that we ourselves are the cause and solution for our problems and we need to look in before blaming others. 
In His words , "For him who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, his mind will remain the greatest enemy.” 
So who we are, what we do or achieve, how we manage our lives depends solely on us. 
Ultimately what matters is one's hard work and commitment.  
This morning as I remembered our mother on her fourth death anniversary I remembered my first blog and the commitment I had made. I lost no time in setting out to write.
 I hope my rediscovered passion to blog is not hampered by any more breaks and my commitment to all causes in my life never gets diluted. What better tribute to Amma and her commitment to our upbringing !

Thursday, 29 July 2021

APJ Abdul Kalam : Connecting "Technology" and "Culture".

APJ Abdul Kalam : Connecting "Technology" and "Culture". 

The very name of APJ Abdul Kalam conjures respect, admiration, affection and awe. He was the Missile Man of India who became the Supreme Commander of the armed forces as the 11th President of India from 2002 to 2007. Technology may be his second name but his personality is strongly embedded in culture. He represented India in its true spirit. 
The son of a Muslim boat-maker from a small village in Rameswaram, he had humble moorings, and was inspired by the ideologies and philosophy of his father, which gave depth to his character. He gives full credit to his parents for instilling him with values which helped him face all the adversities of life.  He did not hesitate to undertake tasks like newspaper vending from the tender age of eight to support his family.  

The practical lessons of his school teacher Siva Subramania Iyer kindled his fascination for flying. His path to success begins with his degree in Aeronautical Engineering from Madras Institute of Technology which was made possible by his sister Zohra who pawned her jewellery for his education.  He made excellent use of all opportunities to rise to the highest office in the country because he believed that all may not have equal talent but all of us have an equal opportunity to develop our talents. 

The friendship of his father, an imam, Pakshi Lakshmana Sastrigal, the Tamil priest, and Father Bodal kindled his spirituality. He said that if people respect each other's faith and beliefs and their right to hold them there would be no room for conflicts. He therefore emphasized that along with academic and scientific training, spiritual training should be imparted in schools. Values must be instilled in children only then could become virtuous adults. As can be seen, his education in the field of the sciences was strongly informed by his cultural context. This in turn is visible in the ideas he imparted about education, as reflected in the following quote:  

“Inquiry, creativity, technology, an entrepreneurial mind set and moral leadership are the five attributed to be cultivated throughout the education process to create ‘autonomous learners’”  

Kalam’s statement suggests that technological learning must be accompanied by both, the spirit of scientific and artistic enquiry, and values required for leadership. This link between availability of technology and cultural learning is also accompanied by a focus on use-value and accessibility, as suggested by the mention of an “entrepreneurial mindset”. Kalam believed that education gives knowledge but righteousness gave beauty to character, which led to harmony in the home, order in the nation and peace in the world. Again, the link between technological know-how and shaping character is clearly visible.  

Kalam had the great opportunity and honour of working with three scientific establishments— Space, Defence Research and Atomic Energy. He observed that scientists and technologists were dreamers, but were also never afraid of failures during their missions because they adapted themselves with better technology to succeed eventually. He showed exemplary courage each time he failed whether in his admission into the air force or at the failure of RATO system. He felt that joy and sadness are a part of life and had to be handled with maturity. Indians suffer unnecessary misery all their lives because they do not know how to manage their emotions. The link between technological adaptation and resilience is of particular significance here. The possibility of scientific progress here is linked with having the mental fortitude to work through failure. What is also important is the focus on emotions, and the suggestion that effort in the technological field requires honest self-reflection on emotional and mental health. As suggested earlier, his model of education is holistic, focused on scientific progress, creating a culture which develops character, and focused on wellbeing. 

Kalam’s mentorship with Vikram Sarabhai and support from Dr. Brahmbhatt or Prof. Satish Dhawan gave him wings to fly. He launched the SLV 3 and took India to the Space Club. The various missiles like Agni, Prithvi and Nag made him worthy of Padma Vibhushan. This led to envy among a few but Kalam continued undeterredly and became the Scientific Advisor to the Defence Minister. The title of Bharat Ratna befitted his stature for he soon conducted the nuclear tests at Pokharan II under trying circumstances. Success was always credited to his team while he shouldered the responsibility of the failures.   

In his book “Transcendence”, Kalam acknowledged that the struggle between happiness and unhappiness that had so far been the story of human existence and the struggle between peace and war that had been the history of the human race must change. The power that would lead us to eternal victory amid these struggles is the power of good within us. We had to overgrow our egos and be selfless. It was his faith in God coupled with his imagination which gave him the strength. No wonder he constantly spoke to teachers and parents to ensure that their children used their imagination. He interacted with students and children and inspired them to dream, aspire and have a vision as these were the keys to a successful life. 
His books have been a source of inspiration. Kalam’s writings demonstrate how he made sure that his learnings from the field of science and governance entered the cultural sphere. His sustained efforts to converse with both students and teachers show that he was particularly concerned with how the culture of education in India was shaped.  
Kalam’s vision of India 2020 identified five areas of progress: agriculture and food processing aimed at doubling the present production; infrastructure with reliable electric power providing urban amenities to rural areas and increasing solar power operations; education and health care directed towards illiteracy, social security and overall health for the population; information and communication technology for increased e-governance to promote education in remote areas, telecommunication and telemedicine; and critical technologies and strategic industries, particularly the growth of nuclear technology, space technology and defence technology.  
  
While on the one hand he was fully well versed with technology on the other hand he  
was rooted in both the cultural values he grew up with, as well as the present cultural context which he actively worked on. He followed Gandhi when he said that one must not lose faith in humanity as it is an ocean, a few drops of dirt did not make it dirty. He believed in the value of institutions and felt that India’s ancient civilisation survived because of its institutions like family, schools, colleges etc. His knowledge of Gita was remarkable and he has given the crux in his book, “The Guiding Souls”: 

“Kurkshetra is within you. The battle is raging within. Ignorance is Dhritrashtra; the individual soul is Arjuna; the in-dweller of your heart is Krishna, the charioteer; the body is the chariot; the senses are the five horses; egoism, cravings, likes and dislikes, lust jealousy, greed pride and hypocrisy and the host of other mental defilements are the hundred Kaurvas.” (p.25 Abdul Kalam, Arun Tiwari, Guiding Souls.) 

While in the field of the sciences, he seems to have seen this field as intimately connected with art, creativity, and imagination:  
   
“Science and spirituality are not antithesis but they are two wheels of the same cart or  they are two faces of the same coin” 

APJ Abdul Kalam was an epitome of both and will continue to inspire generations. 










  

Friday, 9 July 2021

Oil head bath and Nostalgia....

Oil head bath and Nostalgia....

Among the many luxuries for married Tamil girls visiting their maternal home is getting pampered by a traditional oil head bath, popularly known as "Ennai Techi Kuliyal".
As far as my memory goes my mother used to have the  traditional oil head bath on Fridays. Her head covered with the thin, soft white cotton towel to absorb the water after the bath made her look cosy and homely. My father and male members  used to have the oil bath on Saturday but when we were in school and college it was a part of our Sunday routine. 
I used to detest it as a child and wondered why we needed this routine. However there would be no escape.
Come Sunday my mother would heat sesame oil ( Til oil only as any other oil could never be considered) with black pepper and cloves. My sister and me would then be made to sit on a "palagai", wooden seat for the ritual. It would begin with a generous pouring of the spiced  warm til oil on our heads with a vigorous massage till the oil would drip down to our eyes and perhaps that is what I hated most. Our face, hands and legs would also be rubbed vigorously. We would be asked to soak ourselves in the oil for sometime before proceeding for a bath with "Shikapodi", Shaikakai or Acacia powder, specially powdered  and brought from Chennai. 
My sister who had longer and thicker hair and was susceptible to cold would get the additional luxury of fumes from sambrani powder kept below a straw basket for safety. 
I was able to understand and value the benefits of the traditional oil bath only after I became an adult. It realised that it not only improves one's skin and hair but also gave strength to the  body. 
Off late due to the busy lifestyle, modern hair products and other constraints such traditional luxuries are looked down upon or are limited and come up as an annual routine on Deepawali as the Ganga Snanam or Abhyanga Snanam. 
However every visit to my maternal home on vacation can never be complete without the traditional oil head bath.
I love it more when my "Athai" , paternal aunt pampers me with it. 
She has a special way of beginning the oil massage by remembering the Pancha Kanyas,  Ahalya, Draupadi, Sita,Tara, Mandodari. 
(The names of seven chiranjeevis , Ashwathama, Bali, Vyasa, Hanuman, Vibheeshana, Kripa and Parashurama are normally taken for the men.) 
Traditionally Saturdays and Fridays are considered particularly beneficial for the head oil bath for  males and females respectively.  Such a bath is cannot be taken on  Poornima, Full moon day and Amavasya, New Moon day and or on one’s Nakshatra. 
There are other restrictions too for I remember we would become extremely drowsy after the oil bath but were not allowed to sleep. 
On my visit to Bengaluru to meet Appa, my father, I happily got pampered with the luxurious head oil bath by my Athai who is also there. I felt nostalgic with the smell of Shikakai as I  dried my hair with the thin soft white cotton towel, another typically tamil trait which we learnt from our mother. 
The modern day shampoos and spa looked pale in comparison. 
Shiny skin, glossy lustrous hair and a cool mind after the "Ennai Techi Kuliyal". This is one tradition I hope to pass on to the next generation. 

When Sorrow Walks in During Celebration...

When Sorrow Walks in  During Celebration... Some days arrive with unexpected sorrows. I was getting ready for the ninth day of Ganesh Utsav...